by Lynn Kellan
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Today I have Lynn Kellan the author of Run to Her here as my guest. She is going to share how she handles negative criticism. It is great to have you here today Lynn.
How
to handle negative criticism by Lynn Kellan
One sharp word can shatter
someone’s aspirations. Unfortunately, the anonymity of social media makes it
easy to unleash a verbal arrow. People can launch into tirades about anyone,
any team, or any book. Those angry posts generate a ton of “likes” and
“shares.” Venom is rewarded, not shamed. No one seems to think about the effect
of their words because they cannot see the flinch of pain those words produce.
Whenever I see this type of negative criticism about the things I care about, I
try to ignore these hurtful words.
But when negative criticism comes
from someone I know and value, I pay close attention. Often, that criticism is
correct. I don’t want to hear it, I don’t want to face the difficult task of
fixing the problem, but I force myself to take a deep breath and listen. I ask
questions. I try to understand why, and every time I gather the courage to face
my deficiencies, I learn from them.
Growth is painful. When we’re
kids, our bones ache with every inch we add to our frame. Our teeth bleed every
time an adult tooth forces a baby tooth out of our mouths. Our souls ache when
we disappoint or anger our parents.
Growth is no different when we’re
adults. It hurts like heck, only we can ignore it if we want. We don’t always
have to face negative criticism. We can pretend we didn’t hear it. We can say
the criticism comes from someone who doesn’t know what they’re talking about.
We can trick ourselves into believing that we’ve got nothing left to learn.
Do we?
I admit that many forms of
negative criticism are poorly worded. Those verbal barbs
hurt so much, we struggle to see past the pain in order to get a glimpse of the
truth. I’m guilty of this all the time. When a critique partner tells me that a
portion of my work needs editing, I don’t want to listen. But I’ve learned that
every time I take a second look at the criticism, every time I try to fix the
problem, my work improves.
In a strange way, criticism is a
gift…if you’re willing to unwrap the ugly package.
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BLURB:
She
avoids men like him. He needs a woman like her. One lie changes everything...
Gabriel
Antonov is a mechanic who can fix anything, even a woman’s hesitance. His
talents have earned him the well-deserved reputation as a player, but when a
routine one-night stand goes wrong, he’s haunted by what he’s done. Nothing can
free him from those depraved memories, until he meets Leigh Nelson.
Leigh
avoids strong, silent types like Gabe, who is stronger and quieter than most
guys. The only man she’s focused on is her father, who is suffering from a
devastating health crisis. She’ll do anything to help him, even at the cost of
ignoring her own well-being, but the stress is getting to her. Gabe’s strength
is tough to resist, and his silence might be hiding a crushing secret only she
can understand.
He can’t
outrun his gut-deep craving for her. Problem is, she’s running from him. When
they’re marooned in his lakeside cabin, he might finally catch her…if he can
admit why he’s falling apart without her.
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EXCERPT
She rose and gave him a smile.
That smile made him want to do pointless, tender
things like brush his fingers through the blonde curls hanging down her slim
back, but he kept his hands to himself. With her, he had to be careful. Take
things slow. If he moved too fast, she’d come up with some reason to leave. He
wanted to give her reason to stay.
For one night.
Or a long weekend.
Whatever it took to satisfy his hunger for her.
For the first time in months, he wanted to be with
a woman. Not just any woman, though. Just Leigh. He wanted her so badly, every
word he spoke came out curt and rough. Winning her trust would be tough if he
kept sounding like a horny Neanderthal, so he kept his mouth shut and guided
her out of The Crab Trap with a light touch to her back.
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Lynn
Kellan writes contemporary romance about strong men who have a weakness for
smart women. She believes men and women aren't that different, because everyone
wants to be with someone who will empty the dishwasher. To prepare for her
career as a romance author, she fell in love with bad boys, burly athletes,
battle-hardened Marines…and married a chemist. Lynn has won numerous writing
contests and served two terms as President of her local Romance Writers of
America chapter, but she feels a true sense of accomplishment whenever she
doesn't embarrass her teenaged kids.
For
love. For funny. For ever.
Find
Lynn at http://LynnKellan.com
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GIVEAWAY INFORMATION
One randomly chosen winner
via rafflecopter will win a $50 Amazon/BN.com gift card.
Visit the other blogs on the tour for additional information on Run to Her:
February 6: Casey M's Corner
February 6: Lorana Hoopes
February 7: Musings From An Addicted Reader
February 7: Books Direct
February 8: 4 the LUV of SANITY
February 8: T's Stuff
February 9: Christine Young
February 10: EskieMama and Dragon Lady Reads
February 10: Mixed Book Bag
February 13: Book Lover Promo
February 14: Booklover Sue
February 15: A Writer's Life
February 16: The Avid Reader
February 16: Book Giveaways
February 17: Fabulous and Brunette
February 20: Romance Author Hear Me Roar
February 20: Nana Prah's Blog
February 21: Wendi Zwaduk ~ Romance To Make Your Heart Race
February 22: Edgar's Books
February 22: Two Ends of the Pen
February 23: Punya Reviews...
February 23: Hope. Dreams. Life... Love
February 24: Kissing Bandits - review
February 24: Room With Books - review
February 27: Megan Morgan
February 28: Long and Short Reviews
February 28: The Snarkology
March 1: Books, Dreams,Life
March 2: underneath the covers
March 2: The Romantic Fanatic - review
March 3: Notes From a Romantic's Heart – review
February 6: Lorana Hoopes
February 7: Musings From An Addicted Reader
February 7: Books Direct
February 8: 4 the LUV of SANITY
February 8: T's Stuff
February 9: Christine Young
February 10: EskieMama and Dragon Lady Reads
February 10: Mixed Book Bag
February 13: Book Lover Promo
February 14: Booklover Sue
February 15: A Writer's Life
February 16: The Avid Reader
February 16: Book Giveaways
February 17: Fabulous and Brunette
February 20: Romance Author Hear Me Roar
February 20: Nana Prah's Blog
February 21: Wendi Zwaduk ~ Romance To Make Your Heart Race
February 22: Edgar's Books
February 22: Two Ends of the Pen
February 23: Punya Reviews...
February 23: Hope. Dreams. Life... Love
February 24: Kissing Bandits - review
February 24: Room With Books - review
February 27: Megan Morgan
February 28: Long and Short Reviews
February 28: The Snarkology
March 1: Books, Dreams,Life
March 2: underneath the covers
March 2: The Romantic Fanatic - review
March 3: Notes From a Romantic's Heart – review
Congrats on the tour and thanks for the chance to win :)
ReplyDeleteIt's so nice to be here at Mixed Book Bag! Thanks for hosting! And I'm in awe of your adventures RVing around the country. Too cool! I live near Philadelphia, but I long to visit Wyoming again (we spent some time in Jackson Hole ten years ago, and loved it).
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Like you post on how to handle Negative Criticism. Talking about it being an ugly package that you need to unwrap was a great way to describe. Thanks of being here. My RV days are over now but I do miss carrying my house with me as I traveled around the country.
ReplyDeleteGreat post - I enjoyed reading it. Thanks for sharing :)
ReplyDeleteI haven't been to Philadelphia since I was really young, I'm curious!
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I loved the excerpt! Thanks for hosting.
ReplyDeleteHi Emily! I'm so glad you enjoyed the excerpt! And I hope you're having a wonderful weekend.
DeleteCongrats on the book. Thanks for hosting. I hope that I win. Bernie W BWallace1980(at)hotmail(d0t)com
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